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25 September 2011 @ 10:21 am
 

I have a lot to catch up on this journal but for now, this is something I need to say.

Being introverted is an odd thing when everyone around you is an extrovert. I'm currently on vacation in New Orleans with three very social people (my husband, our roommate, and a friend) and one moderately social person. Things have been tense at times because of very different personality types between two in the group and as a peacemaker, this makes me work hard at keeping the group on okay terms.

All of this to say, it's hard to say, "Yes, New Orleans is cool, but I've had four days of constant time with people, and I just want to read a book." I have, in fact, said that this morning, but it makes me feel awkward and a bit boring that I don't care about walking another 5 miles today with people who don't get along, mostly shopping, which I don't like to do.

It's just hard to explain to social people that I'm not sad or upset. I'm just tired of being social.

Let me add the qualifier that my husband was awesome this morning when I expressed the desire to be alone. He's currently gone to pick up the rest of our group and bring me some breakfast.

A lot of this is my own insecurity, I suppose, of being the odd one out.

On that note, I'm going to curl up in my extremely comfy bed and read my book.

Hope everyone is well.

Libby

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The Goddess of Imaginary Lightgothicbeauty21 on September 25th, 2011 05:41 pm (UTC)
I'm much the same way. I find myself now participating in groups just so I'm not always the party pooper, but I wind up resenting being guilted into joining, and then leave or stop before the rest of the group.

I like my socializing in small doses, at my discretion. Sometimes I just don't feel like being with people. Sometimes I don't even feel like being with my almost-hubby. He at least gets that. Unfortunately, even though our roommates do too, they don't always grasp it at the moment and think I'm mad at them for something they didn't do, and they get pissy with me.

We will be honeymooning in NOLA the first week of November. Thomas used to live and work there, he has a lot of friends there, I have some family there. They've all let us know they look forward to seeing us while we're down there. I look forward to it and dread it at the same time. We're having a fairly short honeymoon, only four or five days, probably four. There's only so many places you can go and things you can do in that time frame, and I'm concerned he's going to let us get steamrolled by locals and we won't have much time to ourselves.

So I get where you're coming from. Completely.

I hope you enjoy the rest of your vacation and get to read your book in your comfy bed in peace :)
Bellebelleamant on September 25th, 2011 06:54 pm (UTC)

I have indeed gotten to read my book in peace and have no plans for about 3 more hours. It's good times.

I hope the honeymoon works out well. You deserve a day or two (or frankly, quite a bit more, though I know it's not feasible) of stress-free time together with no roommates and no work. Hopefully his foot will be up for the walking in NOLA.

Have a great day. I'm trying. :)

Amyaudamy on September 30th, 2011 06:51 pm (UTC)
I understand this so much. Chester's family (except his mother) are very extroverted and they seem to think I'm antisocial or depressed when I need to get a break from them during vacations. Sometimes I'll take naps just to have some time by myself.
Bellebelleamant on October 1st, 2011 03:42 pm (UTC)

Definitely me too! My mom is an extrovert and she keeps nagging at me when she finds out that Chris is out dancing at a club with friends and I'm home reading a book. Frustrating indeed.